Monday, July 27, 2015

An Amazing Synchronicity that Took Place on the Road to Lake Abiquiu - Later Sedona, Arizona

I had quite an interesting journey back to Sedona earlier this month: 

I got into the driver's seat of a U-Haul cargo van to travel back to Sedona and collect the last of my belongings there a couple of weeks ago. After I got out of the city and up into the mountains, I stopped at a lovely mountain town to "refuel" myself. Then, another 90 minutes down the road, the 2-way highway came to a complete hault! It turns out there had been an accident up ahead. After getting out of the van to connect with some people in front of me, I then sauntered toward the car behind me. The driver was a woman with young children.

We greeted each other. I noticed that she had a skull and bones tattoo on one of her arms. I mentioned to her that I do end-of-life and holistic work. She soon began to share her current story which had to do with the fact that her grandmother had recently taken a fall - or some kind of accident - and had had to be in the hospital. Then she had moved to a rehabilitation facility, but the fact was that she was not going to be going home again. She was probably needing to move to an assisted living facility. This young woman was aware that her grandmother, on some level, was moving into her dying process. She was aware enough that she wanted to be talking about this as a family. However, she was not sure if her mother and other family members were up to it.

I let her know about my website, www.changewithcourage.com, and encouraged her to look me up and at least purchase my books. Who knows how I could be of support to her and her family at this time?!? These are the exact kinds of situations that I can assist in. If you know of someone, or a family in this kind of situation, please let them know about my work.

In closing, let me share an interesting quote I came across this past weekend, by Alan Watts: We live in a culture where it has been rubbed into us in every conceivable way that to die is a terrible thing. And that is a tremendous disease from which our culture in particular suffers.”

And once upon a time, Plato is said to have said, "Death is the greatest of all human Blessings"!!!

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Something a Little New and DIfferent for You... Want a big e-mail list? Check this out!

Hi there!
Have you heard about List-a-Palooza?
It's a free 90 Day List-Building Challenge that my
friend PJ has put together for you. Over 10,000
people have participated in the challenge and
LOVED it!
Here's why I think you should check it out...
With a profitable e-mail list you can:
***  Attract more clients and sales
***  Turn current clients into repeat clients
***  Fill your seminars and programs
***  Promote other peoples' programs that
you believe in and earn $1,000's in affiliate
commissions
During the List-Building Challenge, you will:
* Receive weekly accountability check ins for
tracking your results so that you accelerate your
path to more subscribers (and more sales!)
* Get access to TWO training calls each week with
some of the world's top List-Building Experts to share
their hottest strategies and tactics with you for massively
growing your list.
* Be invited to participate in a weekly "Power Hour"
in which we all get online together at the same time
to implement ONE specific list-building tactic.
You will love it! Cheers,
Maria Dancing Heart
P.S. "What you focus on expands," and by focusing
on building your list for 90 days, especially with
all of the resources you'll receive, you will move
forward MUCH FASTER!

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Music to My Ears


Recently, I gave a talk on "Joyful Transitions: Trusting the Cycle of Life" at a Sales Pros branch meeting in Thornton, CO. One of the women attending was so moved by my talk that she wrote the following reflection"

Awesome! Maria, herself, is healing. She has such a gentle soul and very spiritual. Her message is very much of our landscape today. So needed. She embodies a sense of deeper understanding and connection to over coming the fear of death. Her message of love of self, forgiveness, and respect of death does heal, does remove the sense of doubt and fear of aging and death. She leaves you with a sense of peace. I'm glad I didn't miss her talk.         -- Jan G.

Jan also shared with me personally these words: 
You really do have a way about you that not everyone has. Very soothing and healing but also meaningful, not condescending. Thank you.

Thank you, Jan! I can see that you really understood my message and "got" what I am about. I will be using your words here as often as I can - to see how I can make better inroads and reach more people with my talks.

If any of you reading this blog have any suggestions for me, in terms of where I might offer my talk(s) to help people shift their perspective and overcome fear of death - begin the conversation, if only in their own mind - please let me know. I'm open to considering all possibilities these days!

Highest Blessings of Light and love to all.

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Only Love!

I wanted to share one of my favorite stories that I believe could change the world! It's in my first book, The Last Adventure of Life; and I'm planning on including it in my 3rd book, too! Check it out for yourself:


ONLY LOVE

My father was a hellfire-and-brimstone preacher in the small town where I grew up. As I started to see his religious ranting as garbage, I saw how he had dominated my life with all of his rules and regulations from God Almighty. He hated anyone who disagreed with him and damned them to hell.

When I was a teenager we started arguing about religion (and everything else), and for the rest of the time that I lived in my parents’ house my father and I were almost constantly screaming and cursing each other. When I was a senior in high school I became a raving atheist. We were really at each other all the time. Finally, he threw me out of the house and disowned me, damning me to eternal hell. We despised each other passionately.

I went away to college, overjoyed to be gone and fully intending never to go back. Three years later, I did go back, for his funeral. I didn’t want to go even then, but I went to help my mother settle things. In truth, I was glad he was gone.

A few nights after the funeral, while sorting through some of his stuff, I thought I heard someone laugh. I stopped, listened intently, and heard it again, only this time it was right there in the room. I turned around and saw my father sitting there, in his favorite chair, laughing his head off. I realized then that I had never before, in my entire life, ever heard the man laugh. Not once.

What is so funny?” I demanded.

I will never forget it. “We were both wrong!” he said and howled with laughter. A bolt, just like lightning, shot out of him into me. It was a bolt of pure love. When that happened I had perfect understanding that he was saying that love is the only thing that matters. Nothing else. Absolutely nothing else.

For weeks afterward I felt his searing love shooting through me. At the same time, I was filled with sickening grief and regret that we had wasted our precious time together when he was alive. It took me a few years to come to peace with that.                     – Harley Moor
    So what do you think? Life changing possibilities?!?

Friday, April 17, 2015

Old Time Religion: Another Reason Americans Are Scared and Awkward around Death?

I was on a date with a gentleman I barely knew this past week and awakened to a new understanding: We were talking about my work around end-of-life and the final transition and the gentleman was letting me know about his hesitancy around speaking about death. He didn't point blank tell me, but I came to the conclusion that he had some fear about where he would go after he dies. And this got me thinking about how the rather puritanical "Old Time Religion" that was often about "fire and brimstone" and hell and damnation - was spawned here in the U.S. and is perhaps part of the reason we Americans are so awkward around death?

Ever since starting hospice work about twenty years ago, I've often wondered why we Americans seem to have such a fear of death. The more I've learned about death – and walked side by side with it - I've come to the conclusion that there is absolutely nothing to fear about it: We are simply “going home” to where we came from when we were born. And rather than a scary experience, death can be a sacred, beautiful experience, a gateway into that which feels like the unknown, but actually when we get there, we will recognize it as the “known,” actually our True and Real Home – where only Unconditional Love exists to bless and heal us.

One of the very plausible reasons I've heard about why we're so fearful of death was through a man who has studied conscious aging for many years. He is Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi (God bless his soul, as he made his final transition last July.); and he points out that the reason we are so awkward around death, and therefore grief, too, is because we've taken it to the hospital in the last 100 years. As soon as I heard this, it rang very true for me.

We've also become a very materialistic culture which honors the “image” and outer material things, more than the inner, spiritual matters. We almost worship youth and therefore tend to - perhaps without intending to - discount age, aging, and the wisdom which comes with life experience, growth, and development.


We are also a culture that tends to be left-brain oriented. We rely on “hard evidence” as opposed to the softer evidence that we know in our hearts to be true that often comes from and is related to our intuition. I have heard that in these changing times, all of us are increasing our ability to intuit things. The love vibration on the planet is increasing; and this is partly why there is so much polarization and strife on the planet today.

In fact, sometimes I say that the entire planet is undergoing a kind of Hospice experience! We are dying to the old so that the New may be welcomed and honored. Even though where we're going is a very exciting and loving place, sometimes it's very challenging to leave the familiar. Although we all know that something new is "dying" to be born on planet earth - no pun intended! - it's difficult to know how to give birth to something we have very little experience with. 

For starters, I believe that this is a time for all of us to move from our judgmental, critical minds, and into our hearts. If we can live and embrace our hearts more fully, we can live in love and allow people to be who and where they are. This is true unconditional love. We do not have to convert or change anything. Just let it be - allow all to be, the way it is. This is the Way of the Goddess, the energy that's coming onto the planet full force today too.

Today, as we on the one hand honor the Old Time Religion that has brought us where we are, I invite us to move into the Heart and as we Open up the Heart and move into it, allow that love to permeate ourselves and our loved ones... then move out into the world and permeate the Entire Planet! What a world we could live in if MANY of us could hold and maintain this Love Vibration Frequency. 

May Peace Prevail on Earth! May our missions be accomplished; we honor the guardian divinities and spirits! Shalom, Blessed Be, and May there be Love, Truth, Beauty, Trust, Harmony, and Peace for all living things, everywhere.   (the Melchizadek's Prayer) 

Yours on the Journey, Maria Dancing Heart~~~

Warning: This writing will be part of my upcoming new book, Deathing as a Peak Experience

Friday, February 27, 2015

When Grief Hits Us Unexpectedly!

Well, I just discovered through a mutual friend on Facebook - of all places! - that a part-Japanese friend and artist in Sedona suddenly died. He died in his sleep - a blessing, I'm sure. He left his lovely Buddhist mother who he was caring for.

So, here I am, the "grief counselor" and minister, dealing with my own grief. I can't seem to concentrate on anything this morning. I was going to do some translating work (online), but I seem to be needing to process this grief in me, so I turned to Blogging today instead. I need to be patient with myself today... let me honor my feelings and what I need to do for myself right now.

It's another reminder to me of how fragile life is! I had the privilege of officiating at a service for a young man who died suddenly here in Colorado - just this past Monday. So, signs of life and death are all around me these days. I also just turned 60 years old this week! So what a week it's been, come to think of it ;) Lots of messages about aging, death, and transformation through grief, not to mention the fragility of life.

I guess I don't need to write a lot here today, but I wanted to remind myself and all of us to APPRECIATE the LIFE that we have! We never know what's going to happen, even though we may think we do! Life and death are part of the Beautiful Cycle of Life; and we can welcome the entire cycle as it manifests into our lives.

In closing, I'd like to share a beautiful poem from the first edition my book, The Last Adventure of Life. It's a very comforting piece for those grieving, from the Celtic book, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom.

Beannacht For Josie

On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulder
and you stumble,
may the clay dance
to balance you.

And when your eyes
freeze behind
the gray window
and the ghost of loss
gets in to you,
may a flock of colors,
indigo, red, green
And azure blue
come to awaken in you
a meadow of delight.

When the canvas frays
in the curach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.

May the nourishment of the
earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be
yours,
may the protection of the
ancestors be yours.

And so may a slow wind
work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life.


Friday, September 12, 2014

Posting an Article by Kimberly Saavedra of the Kamlak Center

THE LAST ADVENTURE OF LIFE

We all have things we'd rather not talk about or focus on in life and death is probably high on that list for most of us.  Our long-time member Rev. Maria Hoaglund has spent many years supporting people through "The Last Adventure of Life."  Maria was born in Tokyo, Japan and attended Japanese schools.  After high school, she moved to the United States for college.  She graduated from Yale College and later received her Masters of Divinity from Chicago Theological Seminary.  She worked in the ministry for many years and later, in 1995, she began working as a bereavement coordinator for a hospice program in the Puget Sound area of Washington.  
 
What's fascinating to me is that Maria has integrated her bicultural experiences and skills into her spiritual and bereavement work.  I very much enjoyed her books, The Last Adventure of Life and The Most Important Day of Your Life.  In fact, I've sold her books at some of our live events.  When we get stuck in life, we tend to want to DO something.  Maria's books contain many, and I really do mean many, tangible tips for bringing more comfort and peace to the dying and also to caregivers and people in grief.
 
 
Copyright  © 2014
MAKING FRIENDS WITH THE LAST ADVENTURE OF LIFE

I encourage you to attend Rev. Maria Hoaglund's workshop in Claremont, California later this month: MAKING FRIENDS WITH THE LAST ADVENTURE OF LIFE, on Thursday, June 26, 2014, from 11 AM - 2 PM, at The Village Grill, 148 Yale Avenue, Claremont, CA 91711.  Cost: $22 - Maria's second book will be included, plus you'll need to purchase lunch at The Village Grill.
To Register for this workshop: Call
 928-284-4192.  
Her website is www.changewithcourage.com

About Kimberly Saavedra

Kimberly Saavedra is the Owner and Director of The Kamlak Center, a publishing company and teaching center that focuses on survival of consciousness, transformation of grief, and deeper orders of reality. She was born and raised in Southern California. She graduated from the University of California, Los Angeles with a bachelor of arts in Philosophy in 1997.  
 
In pursuit of her degree, she encountered Dr. Betty J. Kovacs whose work and passion struck a deep chord. That "meeting" inspired Kimberly to create The Kamlak Center in 2002 as a platform to share the vision, research and personal experiences of Dr. Kovacs with a wider audience. Dr. Kovacs received her Ph.D. from the University of California, Irvine in Comparative Literature and Theory of Symbolic/Mythic Language. Dr. Kovacs is the author of The Miracle of Death. The most gratifying aspect of Kimberly's work through The Kamlak Center is hearing from people who share their life stories.
 
Kimberly enjoys yoga, hiking, walking in the Southern California sunshine and spending time with her friends and family, including two very young grandchildren, Andre and Camila. In 2013 Kimberly was diagnosed with breast cancer. She is open to the life lessons and beautiful connections that her healing journey inspires.